A lot of people say that you should be yourself when trying to be closer to someone you’re interested in. This is bullshit, especially if you are a person that uses humor to try and relate to people. I don’t have any experience with same gender attraction (and hardly any with opposite gender), but when it comes to talking to people of the opposite gender, their sense of humor is almost a foreign language. If someone you’re interested in is laughing at what you’re saying or doing, odds are they don’t think you’re that funny, they just like you. So if want to take advice from me, try humor. If you aren’t funny then, it will at least tell you if the person you are trying to attract likes something about you.